Parenting: A Field Guide

You need in-the-moment guidance without gimmicks or put-downs. You’d like clear, sensible ideas and a fresh perspective, along with guilt-free support. Get all that in my new book, Parenting: A Field Guide. It’s your expert companion from toddlers to teens.

Order your copy now, as a harcover book, a searchable pdf e-book, or formatted for the Kindle book reader.

"Every parent wishes their children came with a ´how-to book.´ Dr. Anderson offers just that in Parenting: A Field Guide, brilliantly laid out with one idea followed by one practical exercise. If you wish to balance love and limits then start now with this practical parental blueprint."
- Debi Waldeck, author of In The Beginning, There Was Wellness
"All of us want to be better parents and in a growingly complex and demanding world, we can all use a little help. This book is long overdue and it finally gives parents the tools they need to play a key role in raising their children."
- Betsy Stambaugh, kindergarten teacher and Golden Apple Award Finalist

Table of Contents

  • The Parent Vibe:
     Getting your groove on
  • Attachment:
     Feeling like a family
  • Brain Development:
     The key to everything
  • Learning To Talk:
     The important first step
  • Child Care:
     Who can take your place?
  • Brothers And Sisters:
     When should you have another?
  • Birds, Bees And Babies:
     What your child needs to know when
  • Discipline:
     Developing your child´s self-control
  • Me, Myself And I:
     Your child forms an identity
  • Sleeping:
     Getting past the struggle
  • Food For Thought:
     Thinking about eating
  • Children´s Bad Habits:
     Annoying, disgusting and embarrassing
  • Friends And Enemies:
     Helping your child get along
  • Knowing Right And Wrong:
     Building a conscience
  • The Glowing Eye:
     Television and other media
  • Going To School:
     Are we ready?
  • Becoming A Reader:
     The key step in school success
  • More Than One Way To Shine:
     Helping your child find his strengths
  • Disruptions And Detours:
     Helping children cope with change
  • Making It All Better:
     What to do if you´ve screwed up
  • Leaving Footsteps To Follow:
     Becoming a family leader

Excerpted from the chapter "Discipline"

It is not true that people do things only because they will be rewarded for doing them. What is true is that every person has an inborn desire for respect. No one - not even a child - wants to be manipulated. When rewards and promises are used to coerce good behavior, children revolt. No reward is better than being an independent, free person.

This doesn’t mean you can never say, "Wow, that was a terrific thing you did. Let’s celebrate!" But it does mean that you can’t develop the kind of self-discipline you’re looking for when you say, "If you do a terrific thing, then we’ll celebrate." The problem is not with the celebration but with the cause-and-effect condition put on it. A celebration is something you do with another person. A reward is something you do to another person. No one wants to be done-to. Read more!

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